You’re not ugly. I know me saying this is going to do little to lift your self-esteem. But keep reading, I’m sure that you’ll think differently when you finish reading this story.
I’m tired, I’m so fucking tired of reading comments and messages of women who keep telling themselves that they’re ugly because they don’t fit the predetermined standard of beauty that was established by Hollywood as well as the fashion and beauty industries.
A prototype that is so difficult for us women to identify with, but that we’ll do anything and spend everything to try and live up to it.
No! You’re not fat, you’re not ugly, you’re butt is perfect, your breasts are perfect, your skin is fine, your hair is lovely whether it’s curly or straight, short or long is just perfect. Your body is lovely, your nose is beautiful, those wrinkles in your face look great, YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY BEAUTIFUL AND PERFECT IN EVERY SINGLE WAY. Because…
Everything that you are is what makes you extraordinary.
It is so weird how everyone wants to stand out, but at the same time they all want to look the same. They follow fashion trends to look like other women, they get thick lips, tiny waist, big round butt, big breasts, small nose, perfect wrinkle-less skin, thick long hair, perfect flat tummy, slim arms and perfect nails.
How could you possibly stand out when you’re doing everything in your power to look like some else? That is not what you were meant to look like and what you are my dear, that is beauty.
The most expensive purse in the world is an exotic Hermes purse, made with crocodile skin and incrusted with white diamonds. Why is it so expensive? Because it is unique, it is one of a kind. (please don’t buy fur or leathers, I just needed to get my point across I DO NOT want to promote cruelty towards animals).
What is it that makes a brand exclusive and expensive? That it’s not made for the masses; they carry unique and exclusive designs only for delicate and knowledgeable taste. When you purchase these brands you know you wont see a million girls wear your same dress, shoes or purse. And that is what makes it desirable; Exclusivity and UNIQUENESS.
Michael Kors´ doom came when his “exclusive” purses became purchased by the masses. They weren’t exclusive anymore, they became ORDINARY.
I feel bad using a woman to get my point across, however, it is a woman whom I don’t respect.
Kim Kardashian has become the predetermined perception of beauty. She however, is everything that ugliness represents. Unauthentic, fake, useless, meaningless and unnecessary. A woman who doesn’t care about the fake and hazardous message she’s spreading around the world. A cruel woman who wears fur, regardless of the suffering of animals and she does it with the sole purpose of vanity!
A woman who holds no value but her artificial beauty, no charming personality, no intellect, no talent, no courage, a woman who portrays herself as a complete materialistic, vain idiot. Is this your idea of beauty?
Why you DO NOT want to look like her
Because she doesn’t look how she’s meant to look, she’s had a lot of plastic surgery, she wears tons of makeup and she pretty much lives solely for her looks.
Painting over a Monet to make it look like Van Gogh would ruin the painting. It would make it unauthentic, fake, useless, meaningless and unnecessary.
Hollywood and the fashion and beauty industries have spent BILLIONS of dollars to make you want to look like someone else.
They have carefully designed a difficult stereotype that women would struggle to identify with, so they could make YOU want to look like that and spend money on their useless products. Whether it’s the body of a supermodel, extremely skinny, or Kim Kardashian, extremely curvy.
As you can see, beauty parameters are generally dictated by someone.
In China, having small feet used to be considered beautiful and women went through great pain and suffering to achieve that. In Myanmar long necks are considered beautiful, so women put rings on their neck to make them longer.
The reality is that if you’re expecting for the world to view you as beautiful, you’ll spend you’re entire life feeling ugly. The fashion and beauty industries might have established a beauty design of what a woman has to look like, however, different countries, cultures, times and ethnicities break this perception.
So… you want to look beautiful for the western world. Why? So you can be viewed as an object of desire. So you can have men’s attention? Do you really want the attention of someone who cares solely about what you look like? Do you really want the attention of someone so worthless who only cares about the superficial exterior of your being?
Do you want envy from other women? Why? Physical beauty only goes so far and then other more important qualities kick in. A woman who is just physically perceived as beautiful because she has followed a pre-established design of beauty, is everything BUT beautiful. It doesn’t show beauty, it shows low self-esteem and THAT my friend is NOT beautiful.
CONFIDENCE is one of the most beautiful traits a woman can have. It doesn’t matter what you look like, what you’re wearing or the size of your breasts.
Let me tell you, I have breasts the size of almonds; I have pimples and wrinkles AT THE SAME TIME! My hair is not perfect, my body is not considered perfect, my butt has cellulite that looks like cottage cheese, but then I think “cottage cheese is delicious” and so I feel like my butt looks delicious and OH MY GOD do I walk like I own it.
I’ve heard MULTIPLE times how ugly I look, but you know what? I feel sorry for those people who have such a repressed mindset that inhibits them from seeing further than what someone else told them to see. They have dead minds that live for someone else and what’s even sadder is the level of stupidity these people carry in their sad minds. They are the type that will buy high-end labels because they’re unique and exclusive, but they’ll look at a woman that looks different and label her as ugly.
When I look at myself in the mirror and think for a second that I’m not beautiful, I look at the T.V. and remember the words of those people and think “fuck you, I’m smoking hot, because I am unique, timeless, extraordinary, exclusive and one of kind.”
And so are you!
So walk like you own it, because you do.